What is Your Tendency?

I am reading an interesting book right now in my book club Mrs. Twist Reads This (read more here).  The Four Tendencies by NYT best-selling author, Gretchen Rubin, is an indispensable personality profile that reveals how to make your life better, and other people’s lives, too.

During her multi-book investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the suspiciously simple question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge.

She discovered that people fit into Four Tendencies:  Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels.  Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so understanding this framework lets us make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress and burnout, and engage more effectively.

The first step is to determine what your tendency is.  Visit her website here to take a free, simple quiz.  After you have completed the quiz you will automatically learn your tendency.  Then dive into the book to learn more about how to use your tendency to become happier, healthier, more productive and more creative.  It will be fun to guess what other people are.  For example, I know that Mr. Bee is a Questioner.  I can’t tell you my tendency…you have to wait until book club night!

The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you’ve ever wondered:

  • People rely on me, so why can’t I rely on myself?
  • Why do people tell me that I ask too many questions?
  • How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask – or one who keeps telling me what to do?
  • How do I stop by teenager from dropping out of school?
  • Why can’t I convince my patients to take their prescriptions?
  • How can my team become more effective, with less wasted time and conflict?

At our book club meeting on October 26 we are going to do a fun activity to learn what our tendencies are and help each other to harness our strengths.  Wanna join the fun?  Visit BookMovement, our book club website to sign up for a free account.  Use this invitation code to join our club, and whether you are local or far away, you can be a part of a community spending more time reading and less time using technology!

How I Start My Day: Podcasts

With Mr. Bee’s retirement came a change in my morning routine.  Since he doesn’t have to get up to a 9-5 job anymore, he’s become a nightowl. This means that when I get up early every morning, he’s still sleeping so I can’t watch my usual morning show.  I have solved that with something I actually like better:  Podcasts!  I have them downloaded to my Google Home and my phone through the apps — Player FM and Podcast Addict. Note:  Most all of these podcasts are available through Apple, but I am team Android/Google.  I have to use Podcast Addict for the shows not featured on Player FM.

Here are my favorite ones that I rotate through…

Young House Love by Sherry and John Petersik.  They are a fun couple who began chronicling their home improvement adventures in 2007 on the blog of the same name.  You can tune in weekly with episodes filled with casual decorating advice, DIY stories, along with what’s new around the house and interviews with designers, bloggers, TV personalities and more.  They have authored two best-selling books and have product lines at Target and Home Depot.  I had the chance to meet them last summer at Haven Conference and they are just as fun in person as they are on social media.

The Foodist podcast by Darya Rose, PhD., introduces you to real people on the journey of becoming foodists, learning how to get healthy and lose weight without dieting.  A foodist is someone who uses Real Food to optimize their life for health and happiness.  She is also the creator of Summer Tomato, one of Time’s 50 Best Websites.  Each week she talks with a guest at all stages of their journey in finding foods, habits and activities they love and that work for them.

What Should I Read Next by Anne Bogel is the show for every reader who has ever finished a book and faced with the problem of not knowing what to read next.  Each week Anne, of the blog Modern Mrs. Darcy, interviews a reader about the books they love, the books they hate, and the books they’re reading now.  Then, she makes recommendations about what to read next.

Happier with Gretchen Rubin.  The #1 bestselling author of the Happiness Project (a great read I might add) and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s co-host is her sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer who lovingly refers to Gretchen as her “happiness bully.”  Gretchen will be at the North Richland Hills library in September signing her latest book The Four Tendencies.

And the newest Podcast is For the Love by Jen Hatmaker.  People. Home. Stories. Shoes. Family. Jesus.  Community. TV. Travel. Food. Culture.  The hilarious best-selling author and star of HGTV’s “My Big Family Renovation” invites you to drop by and catch up with her friends as they laugh and chat about all the things we love.

I listen to the podcasts while I sip my coffee, put on my makeup and dress for the day.  Most are about 30 minutes long so it’s the perfect pick-me-up before work where I learn something new and it’s always a positive message — which, to be honest, the morning news these days is not so positive.

Give these a try and be sure to let me know what podcasts you listen to and share in the comments.